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Speaking the Truth in Love


… we will speak the truth in love, growing in every way more and more like Christ, who is the head of his body, the church.

Ephesians 4:15 (NLT)

I’m a very direct person and I usually speak my mind, but speaking MY mind isn’t what God wants me to do.  He has given me the mind of Christ so I can share HIS love for the purpose of drawing people to Him.  I may not be the best person to share a post on speaking the truth in love, but below are 4 practices that have helped me. 

1. WAIT 

In this world of instant communication, it’s so easy to fire off a response to something we disagree with, but it’s best to just wait.  I would recommend that you wait at least 24 hours unless it’s a life and death situation or some critical information needs to be communicated immediately.  During this waiting time, pray about the situation.  Pray for God to help you see the situation through HIS eyes.  Pray for God to help you communicate HIS love.  Pray for God to give you the right opportunity and the right words to communicate the truth in love. 


People seem obsessed with copying the world on their responses to everything.  In a sensitive situation, this is NEVER the right thing to do.  Think about how you want someone to correct you.  Do you want them to send you an email and copy everyone you know?  Of course not.  Love COVERS sin (1Peter 4:8); it does not condemn, shame or humiliate.


I know I would get my point across better if I would stop TELLING and start ASKING.  In fact, allowing people to answer a question will often help them understand and apply the truth much better than an explanation of facts. 


Courtesy of Microsoft Free Images

Courtesy of Microsoft Free Images

Have you ever tried to eat a peanut butter and jelly sandwich without the bread?  It would be quite messy.  The bread helps it stay together so it can go in your mouth and nourish you.  Likewise, if you try to feed someone a hard truth without sandwiching it together with love, they will probably reject it before it can be of any value to them.  Take some time to let them know you care about them and their views, then share the truth and follow up with some encouraging comments. 

Let’s Pray:  Lord, reveal YOUR truth to me and teach me to share the truth in love.  Let me remember that UNITY in You is the goal.  Let my words, spoken or written, build others up and not tear them down.  I pray that my words will draw others closer to You.

QUESTION:  What tips do you have for sharing the truth in love?  Use the comment form to share your thoughts.

Have a Victorious Day!
Marianne Clements